Losing a Loved One: How Kundalini Yoga Can Help You Combat Your Grief
The worst has happened — you have lost someone close to you. You knew that this day would grace you and, finally, it has come. When you are in the throes of grief, it can be hard to see beyond your own sorrow. That is perfectly natural and you must not fight it.
Whether it is a family member or a loved one, you must understand that this will be a challenging period. No one can take your pain away. That is not how this earthly, physical existence works. Instead, you have to work through this sadness and continue forward.
At this moment, you may have no idea how you will battle on. Getting up each morning is a struggle. When you awaken, you once again realize that the person you cared for has moved on. However, there is comfort out there for you. Here’s what you should remember.
Grief doesn’t disappear but it can get smaller
The truth of the matter is that your grief may never go away entirely. When you love someone deeply, you will continue to feel that loss for the rest of your life. That is perfectly okay. It is only when we have loved someone on a real level that we feel this acute pain.
However, recognize that your grief will start to get smaller with time. The more you work on yourself and remember that person in your life, the better you will start to feel. It will take time to realize that it is worth going on without them. But your hard work will be worth it.
Understand that the big sleep is natural
When we enter this world, our life is mapped out in front of us. We already have an end point — not in minutes, days, months, or years. Our lifespan is determined by the amount of breaths we are set to take. With that in mind, the more that you slow down and take deep breaths, the longer your physical life may become. That is entirely natural.
Just as the start of life is natural, so is the end. The big sleep will come to each of us as we are not made to live out eternity on this plain. While that is of little comfort when you have lost someone special, you need to focus your energy on the lifetime cycle here. We each have a limited time on earth. Pay attention to how good this person’s life was.
Do things that honor their memory
Give yourself some time to reflect. You may want to lay down a yoga mat, light some incense, and even meditate in peace. While your grief may feel all-consuming at this point, know that the pain will not last forever. You have the chance to keep their memory alive.
Consider the ways that you can honor the person that has gone. It may be as simple as reading their favorite book, listening to music that they enjoyed, or wearing clothes that remind you of them. There are many creative options out there — why not make a list?
Appreciate the time you had together
While this person is no longer with us, it’s important to appreciate the time that you had together. You may find it is helpful to write a journal and note down the memories you made with that person, for example. On the other hand, simply speaking about them to other people who knew them will help you to keep their true essence alive in the world.
Give yourself the gift of true mourning
Are you shying away from your sorrow? That is a natural reaction. However, as humans, we are bound to experience sadness from time to time. Life is rarely plain sailing. It is taking you all too much energy to avoid the feelings that have taken over your life now.
Rather than trying to run away from your grief, embrace it. Allow yourself to experience the pain and don’t be scared of that emotion. You may want to set aside some time to mourn that person on a weekly basis. You deserve that space to do what you need to do.
Tap into the unique power of Akaal
When you have lost a loved one, there is some Kundalini Yoga technology that can help you. The power of Akaal is mighty. This mantra meditation allows you to vibrate at the same frequency as the departing soul. That is a majestic experience. You have the unique chance to move at the same rate as that person as they make their onward journey.
Many Kundalini Yoga students find that this approach is useful to the grieving process. When you undergo this meditation, you are sure to find it exhilarating and enthralling. Hold onto those feelings. They will give you the power that you need to move forward each day.
Continue on your spiritual journey
Losing someone who you care about is a difficult experience. However, you should tap into the unique strength of your spiritual journey now. While it may feel as though you are about to fall apart, that does not have to be the case. Instead, hold it all together.
Each day, get up and do one small Kundalini Yoga exercise. Don’t worry if you cannot manage more than that. That is not a problem. However, this act of self-care will help you stay on track no matter what else is happening in your life. You may want to keep track of it in a diary or add it to your calendar. Keep going even when it feels impossible.
It’s hard to describe the pain that you are feeling right now. However, it’s important that you recognize that you are not alone. You have a whole community of people behind you and all of the support that you need. While the days may well feel long and hard, you must keep moving and looking after yourself. That is what matters the most at the moment.